August 8


The Escape Artist

I sometimes experience feelings of tightness, shortness of breath, sleepless nights, confusion, blurred or dizzy thoughts, and worst of all, the sense of going in circles trying to decide where to start. Do any of these feelings resonate with you? If so, keep reading.

Escape the negative thoughts

I have suffered from these feelings my entire life. And for most of that time, I had no idea what I was suffering from. I blamed it on all sorts of things: bad customer service, a relationship breakup, my divorce, an argument, a disagreement, the weather, you name it. I always had some excuse for why I was down. What I did not know then is that my past trauma, which I thought I had buried very neatly, was now popping up from where I had left it buried and getting the best of me.

Suffering From Trauma

I did not know that I was suffering from trauma—and not just typical trauma but all the trauma that my body had endured through the years, like falling facedown when I was five years old and breaking my nose so bad it took seven reconstructive surgeries to restore it to normal, being thrown off a horse when I was eighteen, or getting into a horrible car crash where I was hit head-on by a guy who was late for work. I never took into consideration that these would be “traumas.” I just knew that I had emotional trauma and thought I was the perfect “escape artist.” I had left those traumas behind and would reinvent myself, never thinking about the past.

Healing from Trauma

Past Wounds

But as hard as I tried to escape my past, my wounds, trauma, hurts, and failures would reappear when I least expected them. They popped up when I started a new adventure, relationship, goal, or project. Sometimes, those feelings would emerge when I was just doing nothing. It goes like this: my heart will race or I feel “weird,” like I am getting sick. But these feelings are caused by those traumas that need to be healed, which I, the escape artist, though I could run away from. While it is a relief to know that what I suffer from is normal, not knowing what to do when these feelings come out is a major stress.

So I went on a journey to get answers because, as the saying goes, “happiness is an inside job.” I just got tired of being sick and tired. Ever feel that way?

My journey started with recognizing the patterns. It wasn’t until recently that my patterns became very clear! Before, I was aware, but now it was clear that there are patterns that need to be interrupted and the escape artist needs a break.

The Journey Begins

In November 2020, I had the realization that if I really wanted things to change, I had to stop the patterns, so I came up with my own program. It is not a quick fix. To all my escape artists out there, if you are looking for a quick fix, this program is not for you. My program follows guidelines that keep me in the present moment. Anything that makes me feel like I want to escape or run had to be removed, and anything that makes me feel calm and happy was added. Just as I do not really believe in diets, I do not believe in a quick fix for happiness. Instead, it is a journey.

 Self-Healing Tips

You may be wondering what I do. Here are my top five tips for self-healing, and guess what? They are free and they work:

  1. Sit in silence.
  2. Read or listen to inspiring books. My top three right now are The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer, The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer, and You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero. I have read each of these a few times.
  3. Stretch or do yoga.
  4. Go for a walk (no cell phones allowed).
  5. Turn off your cell phone at 7 p.m. and wake up between 6 and 6:30 a.m.

Those are my top five, but I have a lot more. In my future posts, I will be sharing my entire program. There are many fitness programs, too, but this is what I consider an emotional program.

Healing journey

Stay Connected

If you are tired of being the escape artist and would like to follow guidelines to help heal your emotional health, keep reading my posts. Stay connected. I would love to hear from you!

All my life I said, “I got this,” which served me well in a lot of my successes—just not in my emotional success! I needed coaches, trainers, and advisors for my emotional health. I am happy to share my journey here. You are not alone. Those of us who struggle with letting go of the past, or any type of trauma, are here to support you as we support one another.

Say goodbye to the escape artist and hello to the healing journey.


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About the author

From her start as a Playboy Centerfold and Covergirl to her life as a Screen Actors’ Guild member and later, achieving the Top 5% in her industry as a member of the Million Dollar Roundtable, Deborah Driggs has had to clear many hurdles in life. While it may seem like Deborah’s success came easy to her, nothing could be further from the truth. Rather, she has had to overcome a number of challenges in life to get to where she is today. What is true - and a part of her character - is her willingness to take risks, maintain a positive attitude, and never take ‘No’ for an answer.

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