August 1


I Love Shoes

The shoe boxes really stacked up when I started to have success. When I could afford to spend money on things other than rent and a car payment, I went nuts with shopping for shoes. I love shoes! I love trying them on, and I love the way they make me feel. Let’s face it, there are different types of shoes, and of course, you need a pair for every occasion. There are dancing shoes, and there are shoes that will kill your feet if you even try to dance. I can barely walk in half of the shoes I own, and at the end of the night, I ask myself, “Why do I torture myself?” My bunions hurt, and I can barely walk.

Shoes can be very expensive! Buying them is an expensive habit, and it gets a bit depressing when the thing you are obsessed with hurts your feet! It is quite the metaphor for everything we do!

I will keep wearing super expensive shoes that hurt my feet and cause misery. This is after I spend hours trying them on, and at the store, they seemed to feel just fine because I was in love with them at first sight, and of course, I had to have them.

Deborah Driggs - Golden

Invest In Shoes

No wonder Zappos nailed it with their 100 percent paid return shoe policy. Women went nuts ordering shoes, and guess what? When they received the shoes, they kept them—all of them—because “someday they will fit!”

That is one company in which I wish I was an original investor—with the smartest business model and the best customer service ever.

I have a lot of shoes, and they sit in pretty boxes. I wear them sometimes—actually, less and less these days—but I cannot part with some of them as they are collector’s items, and it would break my heart to let them go!

Does any of this ring true in many areas of your life?

Shoe Boxes

Shoe boxes are a metaphor for me in many ways. I used shoes early on as an exterior fix, something that would make me feel better on the outside while my insides were still feeling sad. It is like the line from the film In Her Shoes, when Rose Feller says, “I get something out of them! When I feel bad, I like to treat myself. Clothes never look any good, food just makes me fatter, shoes always fit.”

Deborah Driggs - My Red Heels

I can relate to that line because I have a closet full of shoeboxes, and each box has some memory of how I was feeling at that time, where I was in my life, what event I wore the shoes too, and what dress or outfit the shoes would pair perfectly with. And so I have a lot of shoe boxes.

Shoes also represent for me something to obsess over to try to fill a hole in myself only to feel worse. I know I am not the only one who has had buyer’s remorse after buying shoes, and it is really hard to take shoes back, especially after they have been worn. It is usually after the first time I wear them that I ask myself, “What was I thinking? Why would I buy such uncomfortable shoes?”

Now I pause before buying anything, and these days, I am just not into shoes like I was ten years ago. I am aware that everything I need is within me, and shoes will not make anything better.

Remove Your Shoes

I have a mat outside my front door that reads Please Remove Your Shoes. Funny, right? Please remove your shoes. How ironic! But there is really something healing about no shoes in the house. Yes, it keeps the floor and carpet clean, but it is also grounding to be barefoot and feel the earth. We walk around my home barefoot or in socks.

I like the habit of taking shoes off. I learned that custom when I lived in Japan in 1983. I was introduced to it everywhere in Japan as it is a custom to remove one’s shoes. It is a respected tradition.

My obsession with shoes has changed quite a bit. I am trading the stilettos for an obsession with sneakers and comfortable workout shoes. My back and hips will thank me!


Get Deborah's Personal Letter Delivered Weekly


You may also like

My Heart’s Desire

My Heart’s Desire



Trigger-Free Day

Trigger-Free Day

Page [tcb_pagination_current_page] of [tcb_pagination_total_pages]

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked

  1. Hi DEBORAH i HAVE A YOUTUBE CHANNEL and i would be delighted to have you on my show as A positive spoke person
    how you can directly impress or motivate ones esteem ,plus go over some of your accomplishments as a playmate

{"email":"Email address invalid","url":"Website address invalid","required":"Required field missing"}

About the author

From her start as a Playboy Centerfold and Covergirl to her life as a Screen Actors’ Guild member and later, achieving the Top 5% in her industry as a member of the Million Dollar Roundtable, Deborah Driggs has had to clear many hurdles in life. While it may seem like Deborah’s success came easy to her, nothing could be further from the truth. Rather, she has had to overcome a number of challenges in life to get to where she is today. What is true - and a part of her character - is her willingness to take risks, maintain a positive attitude, and never take ‘No’ for an answer.

Back to top